Surviving (and Thriving) at Open House as a Special Needs Parent

Open House season can feel overwhelming for any parent—but for those of us raising children with special needs, it carries an extra layer of stress and preparation. While other parents are scanning the classroom walls for artwork or asking about field trips, we’re silently calculating:

Will my child feel safe here? Will their needs be understood? Will this teacher see my child for who they are—not just their diagnosis?

Attending Open House is more than just a formality—it’s a chance to advocate, build relationships, and set the tone for the school year. Here are some tips to help you walk in prepared, confident, and ready to be the voice your child needs.

What to Look For During Open House

1. Classroom Environment

   • Is the room overstimulating or relatively calm?

   • Are there quiet corners or spaces where a child can regroup if they get overwhelmed?

   • Are visuals (like schedules, labels, or sensory supports) available?

2. Accessibility

   • Is the room set up in a way that allows your child to move around safely?

   • Are sensory-friendly materials visible (fidgets, noise-canceling headphones, wiggle seats)?

3. Teacher Interaction

   • Notice how the teacher interacts with you and your child. Do they seem open, patient, and willing to listen?

   • Are they familiar with inclusive practices or do they appear to need more guidance?

     
     

Questions to Ask the Teacher or Care Team

• Academic & Behavioral Supports

  • How do you support children who learn differently?

  • What strategies do you use when a child is overwhelmed or in meltdown mode?

  • How do you handle transitions throughout the day?

• Communication

  • What’s the best way to stay in touch—email, daily reports, or an app?

  • How will I be notified about my child’s progress or struggles?

• Inclusion & Peer Interaction

  • How do you encourage friendships and prevent isolation?

  • Are there opportunities for my child to participate in group activities at their level of comfort?

    
    

Information to Share with the Teacher

No one knows your child better than you. While it might be tempting to hold back, sharing the right details upfront can make the school year smoother. Consider creating a one-page “All About My Child” profile with key highlights, such as:

• Strengths: What your child is great at (e.g., following directions, building with Legos, memorizing songs).

• Triggers: Situations that may cause meltdowns (e.g., loud noises, changes in routine).

• Calming Strategies: What works best when your child is upset (e.g., deep pressure hugs, bouncing on a ball, quiet space).

• Communication Style: How your child best understands directions or expresses needs.

• Goals: What you hope your child will gain this school year, beyond academics (social skills, independence, confidence).

  
  

Final Thoughts

Open House isn’t just about touring classrooms—it’s about starting a partnership. You’re not just dropping off your child each morning; you’re entrusting their safety, growth, and emotional wellbeing to a team of adults. Take the time to ask the hard questions, share your child’s story, and establish yourself as a collaborative partner.

And remember: you don’t have to do it all in one night. Open House is the first step in a year-long journey of advocacy and teamwork. Start strong, stay consistent, and never underestimate the power of your voice as a parent.